If you are considering getting married, it's time to ask yourself a few questions. Remember you want to be happily married, which is more than just being married.
1. Why do you want to get married? Why are you getting married? Be honest with yourself.
Make up a pro/con list. Don't get married for the sake of not being alone or to fulfill some insecurity. Get married because you are in love and want to spend your life with him.
2. Do you really know your partner's personality? Can you really trust him? You can get to know someone by his/her previous behavior. How has be been in previous relationships? You should also pay attention to the relationship that he has with his family. Previous behavior is the best predictor of his future behavior.
3. Are you planning a life after the marriage? I hope so. You can't only think about the wedding. You must consider what is going to happen after it. You have to decide on where you are going to live, if you are going to stay in your current career, or if you are going to start a family immediately. You also have to consider the next fifty years. The both of you need to make the decision of how you are going to deal with conflict, because conflict is inevitable. You also have to decide on how you are going to handle money and the division of labor issues. Make sure that you are putting the same amount of time into your marriage as you is the wedding.
4. Are you investing more than is required? Is your relationship going to cost your entire life? Your friends, your family, your career, and your family? If so, I recommend that this is the move that you want to make. Please be sure that you can handle losing all of those things. Make sure he is the one that you want to lose everything for. If not, than it might be time to pack up and move on!
5. Have you told him what is expected? Have you communicated your needs and wants?
Know yourself. Know what you want. You can't determine if someone is right for you if you don't know your own needs. Tell him what you want and what you expect of him as a husband and a father, not after you have made the move into marriage.
Marquet Publishing was in founded in 2005 by author Kristin Marquet. Kristin Marquet has researched and written numerous articles on relationships. She has written two e-books, one on online dating and one is a collection of articles and essays on modern dating issues for the modern woman. Kristin is also known as a Media Darling as she is the President of Marquet Communications, a company that specializes in assisting day spas to become the number one choice in the marketplace.
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